Monday, November 16, 2009

A little more than just a friend ...

Sometimes...all you want is just a friend.

When you are small, all you want is someone to play with. At the times you don’t have a friend, it’s no problem. You can always make new friends. You can also convince yourself that there is no one like you and you are all alone in this world. Imagination is a powerful tool. After all, the world is big and it’s lonely at the top and there are many things to be done and the path to greatness is best tread alone. There are a whole lot of things that parents teach their children as they grow older. Lies. Lies that help us brave the world and times of solitude.

As you grow older, you realize that life is best not walked alone. There are many people who can join us in the journey. Friends who may or may not be true, but who give you company and as long as you walk your path and do what you like, you’re fine. If such a friend deserts you, you feel bad, but you have the strength to carry on. You remember your parents’ words. Life is best walked alone, walk a little further, meet other friends and move on.

As you get still older, you realize what falling in love is. Then, you look for and luckily find that one person who is your best friend and who knows you inside out. This best friend listens to you and understands you like a soulmate. He knows your weakness and he knows your strengths. Sometimes you feel he knows you better than himself. Nobody warned you about this kind of a friend.

Then one day this friend stops understanding you. He doesn’t walk at the same pace as you. He tells you that he is there for you, but you look into his eyes and you can’t believe his words anymore.

You tell yourself that he’s just another friend. You try to remember your parents wise words. You try to remember what it is like to walk alone. You remember all the times you’ve been left alone, met new friends, and carried on with life. You can’t think. Your life is a blur. You break down. You want to pick yourself up but you can’t. You sit there waiting for a miracle to happen and you wonder - . Why didn’t my mother tell me about this?

Monday, January 12, 2009

Floating

We're floating in the sea ..
I'm trying to believe you're coming closer to me ..

But we're drifting towards and sometimes apart ..
Letting the waves guide our hearts ..

Don't tease me with the distance ..
Swim to me and save us ..

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

KNOWING YOU

Do rules make up your life?

Do you know what life is about?

Do you care for anyone?

Do you care for those who care?

What is your heart telling you?

Dance to the rhythm.

Is anyone hurting you?

No. its only yourself.

Life is perfect.

Why?

Because you create it.

You are creating the existence you want.

Does anyone love you?

Do you have a home?

Does a smile on someone else’s face make you cry?

Out of joy? Envy?

Are you happy?

Do you know what you want?

Are you creating or reacting?

Are you scared?

Of what?

Have you ever failed?

Do you believe in God?

Do you like the feel of the cold air on your skin early in the morning?

Do you like to watch parrots on the tree outside your house?

Do you like to run and feel the blood rushing in your body?

Do you live everyday?

Do you like to make people around you happy?

Do you thrive in gloom?

What is your religion?

Do you think you have the power?

To rule a life.

To rule the world.

To make a difference.

To create.

When was the last time you created something?

When is the last time you remember?

You create everyday.

Celebrate your creativity.

Celebrate your creations.

Create.

Thursday, April 10, 2008

Yeah, so why do we make friends again?

Yesterday, my jazz dance instructor was trying to explain the importance of chorus dancing before solo dancing. Suddenly he asked us why we thought we make friends at all. There was obviously a silence in which we tried to answer a question we’d not asked ourselves in a long time. Probably close to never.


“For entertainment”, “For Company”, “To have a helping hand around when we need one!” Etc


The answers were obvious. Too obvious to be right, we collectively thought. He asked us to think about the kinds of friends we usually make and keep.


“These are people who have some unique skill or quality that you admire. People whom you’d like to learn something from. People who will help you grow, into who you want to be” he wisely explained


I liked how those words sounded. Of course, fun, compatibility, entertainment are aspects of good friendship. But, a primary foundation to any true relationship is a genuine “respect” for each other. Also, being safe in the knowledge that you are there, to help each other grow, to eventually become - secure, independent, complete individuals.

P.S - I've been updating my blog. If you've got this e-mail, I'm sure you're pleased to know that you're included in the list of my friends who will be regularly notified of any/every new post I publish on my blog. We're pals. You'll forgive me, right? Luvya, Sonali :)

Tuesday, April 8, 2008

Favourite song golden jubilee

I've heard Colby Caillat's debut album song - "Bubbly" more than 50 times since yesterday. I'm still in love with it.

I just read yesterday's post again. The fabulous weather in Delhi these past few days sure inspired the 'romantic poet' in me.

A song for the night breeze...

When it’s strong enough to lift me up, I dream of flying...
Holding you tight, on a magic carpet ride,
Above the lamplights, below the stars...
Where the night sky feels just right

I’ll sing a song for the night breeze .. because it lets me dream of….. you

When it gently flirts with my hair, I dream of dancing...
In your arms, as we twirl around,
among familiar faces, in large open spaces…
To soft and pleasant sounds

I’ll sing a song for the night breeze .. because it lets me dream of….. you

When it softly whispers in my ear, I dream of conversations…
That we can have .. without a word,
Endlessly, forever understanding ...
whats unspoken but always heard.

When the persistent breeze tickles the trees awake ..
When starlight flickers in the strong winds
I’ll sing a song for the night breeze .. because, it helps me dream of….. you

Friday, February 1, 2008

‘To ask or not to ask’ … it’s all about the question

Whenever I’m confused about making a decision about doing something I ask myself these two questions -

1. “Why should I do it?”
2. “When should I do it?”


I’ve observed that unless I have detailed answers to these two questions, I don’t move forward with a decision. It takes long to arrive at an answer that is satisfactory (subjectively) from all angles. Therefore, I usually hang there in limbo until the moment to decide passes by leaving me to struggle with the next in line of life’s decisions.

Lately, I’ve realized that there is a quicker way to handle such dilemmas.
I have yet to try this principle in all my life’s areas, but it’s yielded some interesting results so far. Now, when faced with a similar decision, I ask myself 2 slightly different questions -

1. “Why shouldn’t I?”
2. “Why not NOW?”


I have decided to answer these based on my top and most critical priorities/values in life and if there’s nothing major that stops me, I shall go ahead and do it.

I have a feeling that without the unnecessary justifications/rationalizations/analytics that have come to be a large part of our lives I’ll end up doing a) a lot more and b) more of what I like.